Bullying is when a child tries to hurt another child physically or emotionally. Kids who bully use their power (like being popular or physically strong) to control or hurt others. Bullying usually happens over and over again.
There’s more than one type of bullying. Bullying can be:
- Physical – like hitting or pushing
- Verbal – such as name-calling
- Social – like spreading rumors or leaving someone out on purpose
Bullying can be done in person, online, or with cell phones. Talk with your child about bullying before you see signs of a problem.
Tell your child why you are concerned about bullying.
- “It’s hard to know what to do if someone is picking on you. If you ever have a problem, we can figure out what to do together.”
- “In our family, we believe that everyone deserves respect. When you say mean things, leave other kids out on purpose, or push and hit, that’s not being respectful.”
Play the “what if” game with your child.
Try asking your child questions, like “What would you do if:
- …you saw someone getting picked on?”
- …someone sent you a mean text message?”
- …you hurt someone’s feelings?”
Look for the warning signs of bullying.
Talk with your child about what’s going on at school. Your child might be being bullied if he or she:
- Doesn’t want to go to school
- Has cuts or bruises
- Is acting unhappy or anxious
- Complains of headaches or stomachaches
Your child might be bullying other children if he or she:
- Has a hard time controlling anger
- Is very rough or aggressive
- Is getting in trouble at school
- Has friends who are bullying other children
Speak up if you see signs of bullying.
- Talk to your child’s teacher or school counselor if you think your child is involved in bullying.
- If your child is bullying others, she may need help learning how to deal with anger or other problems.
- If your child is being bullied, encourage him to get help from a teacher or school counselor. Remember, “fighting back” isn’t a good way to deal with bullying.
Learn more about bullying.
Talk to other parents and your child’s school to find out how to handle bullying.
- Find out about the school’s policies on bullying.
- Ask other parents how they help their kids stay safe on social media sites.
- If you have a smart phone, get the KnowBullying app fromstore.samhsa.gov/apps/bullying/. It has simple conversation starters to use with your child.